Things to Discuss with Your Partner If Your Relationship is Falling Apart

Sep 04

There will always be that time when you’ll question where your relationship is going. Sometimes it can feel like the relationship might end sooner or later. Other times you just know there are still ways to save it. Either way, you’ll have to discuss the situation with your partner one way or another.

Why or how you were hurt

Mostly, you’ll feel that the relationship is going downhill when your partner keeps hurting you be it physically or emotionally. Of course, you’ll have to lay it all out! In some cases, you’ll also have to say how your partner hurt you. This is because there are a lot of people who don’t know they’ve been making a lot of mistakes already. No matter how you put it, this is something important to discuss before the breakup, or if you’re looking to make your partner change.

The things you are willing to do

On the other hand, if your partner tells you about your mistakes, tell them about the changes you are willing to make. If you’re sure that you still want to stay with this person, you’ll have to discuss how you can fix your actions and how you can bounce back in your relationship. Listen to each other’s sentiments and adjust accordingly. Of course, if what you did was beyond forgiveness, you can’t really expect the other person to be too understanding.

Figuring out what you need in the relationship

Sometimes what you need from the relationship will prove if you will stay together or not. In many cases, one person becomes dependent while the other one doesn’t think much about the relationship at all. That’s why it is important to discuss and make clear what you both want and need in the relationship. The thing is though, this is one of the hardest things to do. Especially if both of you have different needs already.

Discuss the lack of effective communication

Another very common reason why relationships fall apart is the lack of communication. It’s already obvious that things will go badly if you rarely talk to each other anymore. But there are also times when even if you do talk a lot, you’re not exactly “communicating” with each other. One simple example is when your partner keeps changing his/her story. It’s easily because of this that your relationship turns sour. That’s why you’ll have to talk about it eventually.

Talk about all the good things

Lastly, if you feel that the relationship can still be saved, talk about the good side of your relationship with each other. This is simply because when you’re having a rough time together, it becomes easier for you to see the other bad points in your relationship. So, seeing a bit of the positive side can at least help you see better. On the other hand, if it really is leading to a breakup, then at least you can have better closure.

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Why You Should Learn to Code on the Side

Sep 04

To those who have little knowledge about it, coding may look complicated and intimidating. And it is true that it’s complicated. Though it does take some time to learn, knowing how to code actually has a lot of benefits! So, here are some good reasons why you should learn to code even when you’re not working in IT.

It opens up your career opportunities

With the thriving of technology and the internet, web developers are becoming more and more in demand. But even if you’re not a computer engineer or anything like that, it’s a great skill to acquire. You can just become a freelance coder as a side job and you can still earn some extra money! Or if at some point, your workplace needs a developer, you can at least show an extra set of skills and impress your employer.

It improves your overall knowledge of tech

Believe it or not, having a good understanding of coding can make you more knowledgeable about tech. Of course, this is very important in this day and age, especially because we have technology everywhere. Becoming informed about the digital world can make life pretty convenient for you. That’s because you’ll know of programs and software that can make your work easier. And again, it can be a boost on your career overall.

You’ll become more confident with the knowledge that you have

In connection to the point above, being knowledge will also make you more confident in yourself. Because many people don’t decide to learn to code, you yourself already have an advantage in terms of know-how. In addition to that, the more confident you become with your coding skills, the more you’ll be willing to learn!

It tests your analytical skills

To put it simply, coding involves a system of variables that function in many different ways. The simplest you can compare this to is languages. How you right codes will differ with each program you use just like how grammatical rules differ in every language. That’s why you’ll really have to be analytical with everything. In coding, you’ll have to separate different functions to figure out how they can come together logically. The skills you develop in coding will definitely help you in other aspects of life.

It will improve your interactions with others

Web development usually involves team projects and collaborations. It’s generally hard to do everything by yourself. Coding can help you engage and work together with more people. In other cases, for example, you’ll have co-workers or even friends who will ask for your help regarding web development. In some ways, knowing how to code will give you a better perspective on results and deadlines when it comes to working with teams.

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Tips for Maintaining Your Book Collection

Jul 17

Not ready to give up your growing book collection? Besides investing in a quality bookshelf, there are several things you can do to ensure that your investment will last for decades, so your children can still enjoy them.

  • Determine if the book is made with acidic paper. There are deacidification sprays and interleaving sheets sold at hobby shops if you are concerned about the deteriorating quality of the paper of your books.
  • Place paperbacks in archival-quality storage. You can go the extra mile by investing in bags or covers specially made for protecting books.
  • Do not pile books on top of one another. Some book lovers will not have enough space to store everything, so they will cram everything if there is some tiny space left. Maybe it is time to buy a new shelf or move the books to another room so they do not get damaged.
  • Do not place books in areas where there is direct sunlight. Even paper can get damaged when exposed to ultraviolet rays. Place the bookshelf away from windows or invest in closed cabinets to protect it from the elements.
  • Do not place books near sources of heat. Books are made from flammable materials, so it is common sense not to place them in the kitchen, near electrical outlets, and any home appliance, gadget, or fixture that produces or emits heat.
  • Regulate the temperature and humidity around your book collection. High humidity and high temperatures can damage books over time. How do you determine if it is safe for your books? Try staying in the area for 10 minutes and see if you feel uncomfortable. The most acceptable range is at 35% relative humidity.
  • Books should not be stored in areas that are excessively dry or humid. This is just a follow-up of the previous tip. The components of the book can fall apart when exposed to humidity for a long period of time. Paperbacks for example, will become ideal homes for fungi. You can regulate humidity by installing a dehumidifier in the room.
  • Address musty smell in books. Maybe the paper used is acidic or the room is too humid. If you are concerned by the smell, you can install an air freshener near the books and seal the volume in a dry container for a few days.
  • Clean your shelves regularly. You can dust off shelves at least once a week with a duster, but thorough cleaning should be done at least once a year so you can assess the condition of your books.
  • Do not use paper clips, rubber bands, adhesive tapes, leather dressing, glue, and acidic inserts in your books. There are bookmarks made from acid-free paper you can use. Never ever fold the pages if you need to mark it.
  • Keep food and drinks away from your books. If you need to read while relaxing and enjoying your snack, you should at least keep your hands clean when handling the pages.
  • Expensive and rare books that have suffered some damage can be sent to a book restoration shop.
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The Art of Drinking Champagne

Jul 17

Champagne is a popular drink in parties and special events probably because of its carbonation. But have you ever wondered why it’s the preferred sparkling wine by a lot of people over other types of wine?

The name champagne is taken from the Champagne region in France where a lot of approved grape varieties are grown.

How Champagne is Made

First, the grape juice is fermented to create a base wine. Next, blending of different grapes and vintages takes place to produce the desired flavors and aroma before it undergoes a second fermentation. In some companies, the still wine, sugar, and yeast is added to the wine. The second fermentation process can take up to 8 weeks.

Lees aging is essential to vintage wines, which means that a minimum of three years is a requirement after the second fermentation. For non-vintage wines, a 15-month ageing is required. Then, riddling is done to push the dead yeast cells to the neck of the bottle. This is them removed by dipping the bottle neck into a solution. Whatever is lost in the disgorgement is replaced with a sugar mixture which can affect the sweetness.

Champagne and Food Pairings

Champagne is versatile that is why you will never have a shortage of food to go with it, but to get the most of its acidity and fruity flavors, it is best paired with fruity, meaty, savory, and gamy-flavored food. Champagne goes well with fatty and rich food such as linguini, clams, roasted seeds, garlic chicken, mascarpone, scallops, crab ceviche, duck, pea soup, vegetable salads, mozzarella, Parmigiano-Reggiano, rabbit ragu, blue cheese, short ribs, fried mushrooms, macaroni and cheese, chicken sandwich, fish tacos, red bean chili, fresh spring rolls, and many more.

When it comes to dessert, champagne can be paired with lemon shortcakes, nut tarts, pumpkin flan, strawberry souffle, French macaroons, beet and burrata toasts, toasted almonds, cheesecake, raspberries, peach cobbler, and chocolate.

Champagne Cocktails to Try

Most alcoholic drinks are best enjoyed in cocktails during special events. Next time you run out of ideas, try these champagne cocktails instead.

  • Classic Champagne: champagne, 1 sugar cube, angostura bitters, and lemon twist/orange twist for garnish
  • B2C2: 6 ounces brut champagne, 1 ½ ounces brandy, 1 ½ ounces Benedictine, and 1 ½ ounce cointreau
  • Aristocrat Sparkling Punch: 2 bottles brut champagne, ½ cup sugar, 1 bottle burgundy, 4 ounces brandy, 1 quart sparkling water, 1 block of ice, and strawberries and oranges for garnish
  • French 75: 1 tablespoon lemon juice, 1 teaspoon sugar syrup, 50 mL gin, champagne, and lemon zest for garnish
  • Kir Royale: 1 tablespoon crème de cassis, champagne, and frozen blackberry for garnish
  • Ernest Hemingway’s Death in the Afternoon: 4 ounces brut champagne, 1 ½ ounces absinthe, and ice
  • Grand Royal: 4 parts champagne, ¾ part Grand Marnier, and orange twirl for garnish
  • Mimosa: 4 ounces brut champagne and 2 ounces orange juice
  • Air Mail: 5 ounces brut champagne, 2 ounces golden rum, 1 teaspoon honey, ½ ounce lime juice, and cracked ice
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The Definitive Guide to Reducing Dust in Your Home for Good

Mar 14

Dust is a problem in every household, but when no amount of sweeping could get rid of the bunnies and cobwebs, it’s time to know why exactly they keep coming to every corner of your small abode so you can finally get rid of them better and for longer, and see your home dust-free.

Where Dust Comes From

Most of the dust you see in your home actually comes from outside, such as soil, plants, and animals. Tiny debris and hairs can stick from your clothes or your shoes, and can be deposited in different corners around your house.

But dust can also come from your skin. Because you replace skin cells every day, the dead cells in your epidermis eventually surface to the top and flake off. This is especially true for the ones at your scalp.

Because dust particles are so small, they tend to float around in the air for a while before settling on the ground or on any surface.

Sweeping and Dusting

Surprisingly, while it’s important that you do so when you can, sweeping the floor doesn’t actually remove the dust but shifts it in different places that can be easier or harder to access.

With feather dusters, this is made even worse since the dust simply sticks instead of being brushed away, which makes them not viable for cleaning at all.

The best way to get rid of dust is to use your broom from your ceiling, to the higher spots on your furniture, and then working your way down. Once all the dust and cobwebs are settled on the floor, you can use a vacuum cleaner to gather the dust more easily.

It also helps if you wipe down dusty areas in your house with a clean, damp rag (this is also where you can use floor cleaner to get rid of tough stains) after sweeping and vacuuming. 

Your Fabrics, Welcome Mats, and Carpeting

As much as they make your house or room look pretty, your fabrics and textiles can also be the biggest reason why your humble abode is still dusty no matter how much you clean it.

Regular cleaning is your solution if this is your problem. The best way you can go about this is by doing so on a schedule. For mats, you can clean them every other week (depending on how heavily they are used), while carpets and curtains can be cleaned once a month.

At the end of the day, dust will still keep coming into your home, but regular cleaning allows you and your family to take a deep breath and truly enjoy living in a dust-free environment.

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